How do you see your spouse? With your eyes or your heart?

I saw a cartoon today that caused me to think about this. It was a single panel by the name of “Real Life Adventures.” It shows a seated man with his wife talking to him saying:
“So, what do you think?”
He replies, “Oh... um, I like your new haircut.”
“Same haircut.”
“New blouse?”
“Old”
“earrings?”
“Ditto”
“Am I getting warmer?”
“No, but I am.”

It’s a standard joke that men do not pay attention to the physical appearance of their wives. This is based somewhat on the truth. However, there is another side to the story. I think as partners live with each other, after awhile we start seeing with our heart instead of our eyes. We start looking beyond the physical appearance and start seeing the reasons we are (still?) together. As we grow older and the body declines this is a good thing.