A Half Open Marriage or the Cuckolded Husband - part 7 conclusion

So there I was getting home around six am after falling asleep with G. Of course getting home this late or early the next day was noticed. So I told the first wife (fw) that I had gone home with a woman from the bar and spend the night. Boy did it ever hit the fan. I got yelled at, cursed and in general was told off. I just could not believe it. Here she was f*cking several other men and she had the nerve to tell me that I was cheating on her. Well this was the beginning of the end of the marriage as far as she was concerned. The next several months were bad at home. Finally she gave me the ultimatum, stop seeing G or she was going to file for divorce. I have a bit of a quirk in my personally, I lead like pony and push like a mule. She said that I was damn well going to stop seeing G or else. Of course fw was not going to change her life style. As I was the one in the wrong according to her. So I moved out. To make a long story short, I moved back and then out several times over the next year until fw filed for divorce.

To this day fw tells people, including our kids, that the reason for our divorce was my seeing that woman. Of course she never tells them that she had cuckolded her husband.

I'll be visiting my son

the next three weeks. I leave early Wednesday morning and return on the twenty first. My wife is going with me. This is the first time we have traveled together to visit my son in many (maybe five) years. After about a week my son and his girlfriend are going to Paris France to spend a week there. While he is gone I will be looking out for and overseeing his business. I have done this for him several times in the past. I don't have to do much, just deposit the checks that come in each day. If needed I can write checks but I have not had to do that yet. If a customer has an emergency, I usually just get hold of the tech and route them to the customer. If it is going to be a while before the tech can get there I may go to see what I can do (usually not much) and to show the customer a quick response to their need and to hold their hand until the tech, the real help, arrives. Although once I was able to get the customer up and running again all by myself.

The wife and I plan to do some sightseeing while we are on the west coast. And we will get to visit with my granddaughter, she is nine. I will be posting off and on about the happenings while there.

Support Our Troops

Here in red state flyover country I see a lot of these magnetic ribbons on cars. My guess is that over one third of the cars around town have them. But I wonder if they are really supporting our troops or are they supporting W. I wonder if they have helped the USO, VFW, American Legion, military relief societies, American Red Cross Armed Forces Emergency Services, Fisher House and the like or sent letters and Care packages to the troops? There are so many things one can do - - just Google "support our troops."

I think the United States owes the troops sent to Iraq Big time.

The USA has troops in Iraq based on a lie. There were no WMD and W knew it. Iraq had nothing to do with 9-11 and W knew it. Iraq was only a threat to its own people and maybe, just maybe, to their neighbors and W knew it. Iran was and is more a threat to the USA than Iraq ever was.

The USA does not have enough full time active troops to fight and control two or more countries by itself. So the National Guard and Reserves had to be activated for Iraq. These are the troops and their families that I feel the sorriest for. I keep hearing in the news of families that are threaten with home foreclosure as soon as the service (wo)man returns from active duty and have to depend on donations to keep the house. Being activated puts a financial hardship on the families. One that takes several years, if ever, to recover from. These families are being hurt and loved ones killed, not to defend our country but to defend a lie. To me all the options for us now in Iraq are poor to bad. Damn, damn, damn!

I really hope the USA will do more for its vets. I also hope that the people who have the "Support Our Troops" ribbons on their car are doing concrete active things for the troops.

A Half Open Marriage or the Cuckolded Husband - part 6

I really don't remember for sure how G and I consummated our agreement to have an affair. I suspect it was the next Friday night. At that time G was living in the basement of a girlfriend of hers. It was a townhouse with the livingroom and kitchen on the ground floor, bedrooms on the second floor and a basement. G's girlfriend had two little girls grade school age. Because of the girls, G and I would need to wait until the girls were in bed and asleep before I could be snuck into the basement to be with G. Probably around eleven or so we left the bar and drove to the townhouse and quietly went into the basement. Foreplay was a little kissing and some hands on petting. Not much as we were both ready. Soon we were having sex probably in the missionary position. The good thing was I was able to go bareback. I had a vasectomy a few years before and she was on the pill, so no worries of pregnancy. Back then almost all of the things one could catch sexually could be cured with penicillin, no AIDs no herpes to worry about. It was a wonderful time to be sexually active.

During many lunches, G and I would take her car and we would get a quick bit to eat and to set and talk and sometimes we would drive to a hidden place so we could kiss and pet.

For about a month, we would have sex on Friday nights and make-out during many lunch times.

One Friday night I fell asleep with G and did not wake up until about five Saturday morning. G was in a toot to get me out of the townhouse before the girls woke up to watch Saturday morning cartoons. We heard the upstairs bathroom in use as I snuck out the front door. G told me latter that the girls came down the stairs just a few minuets after I left.

I usually got home on Friday nights, well Saturday mornings, around one to one thirty. I had told the first wife (fw) that I had left just before the bar closed. G did not want me to tell fw about our affair as she thought that it would cause trouble - - and she was right as it turned out. I thought it would be alright to tell fw. After all, she was in no position to complain, as she was having sex with several men. Boy was I wrong.

To be continued.

Buying a new TV? Good Luck with that. Update and clarification

(Note this posting applies to USA only. I don't know what the rest of the would is doing. I would like some info and some links if you have them.)

My sister-in-law was telling be about a TV she saw at the store and was thinking about buying. After a she told me that it was a flat thin TV and would fit in so nice and easy in her house, I had to give her the bad news. The TV she was looking at is not a TV set but just a display. Based her confusion I have put together the following.

If you buy a standard TV set you need to know the Over The Air (OTA) standard analog TV signals (NTSC) are scheduled to stop the end of 2008 in the USA. Congress may change the date, but the cutoff of standard analog TV is coming. That's right, our old TV sets will be obsolete in 2009. No OTA channels 2 through 13.

Your old NTSC TV set may still be useful if you have cable TV or satellite TV. You may be able to buy conversion box to receive the new digital signals and use you old TV set to view them as NTSC TV.

Going out and buying a new TV is becoming different if not difficult. When you go to the store and buy one of those new plasma or LCD flat screen TV you are going to be in for a surprise. Its not a TV like we have come to know them. You can't unbox the TV hook-up the antenna and start watching. Its not a "TV set" but only a TV monitor or display. You will need to have a digital tuner/receiver for OTA signals. If you have cable TV you will need to have a cable box that has outputs for a TV monitor. Instead of one box, aTV set, a separate box for each function is required. Its becoming component TV.

Update and clarification:
Most, but not all, of those new plasma or LCD flat screen TVs do have an analog (NTSC) tuner built-in, for now. You need to check for a NTSC tuner before you buy if you want to view the existing analog TV signals.

Another thing that is different is that the new monitors are wider. In technical terms the aspect ratio is going from 4:3 to 16:9. That is about one-third wider. The displays that can be used with High definition TV (HDTV) are four times sharper. Oh, BTW, not all of the new monitors are able to display HDTV, so be careful when buying a monitor.

New NTSC TV sets are going to be more expensive in the near future. Manufacturers are being required to add digital tuners to some of their TV sets, starting with the large screens, 36" and above, and dropping down in size as the next year or two goes by, until all new NTSC TV sets have digital tuners. This will allow these TV sets to be used to receive the new digital TV signals.

Another thing to be careful about is that digital TV (DTV) may not be high definition TV (HDTV).

There are still some things to be ironed out. Current digital TV is using the MPEG-2 encoding scheme but it looks like MPEG-4 will be used in the future. A DTV receiver and or recorder bought now may not work for all future digital signals. Also there currently are no HDTV DVDs on the market. There is a new standard being developed so hardware (players, recorders and media) is a year or two away. Throwing a wrench into the works are content makers. They are trying to protect their copyrights by making it hard and very hard to record or copy their stuff by blocking the development of new recorders.

Its all very confusing. Hold your head and reach for the Aspirin.

The price for all this new stuff is high. It will be quite a few years before the prices come down.

This transition from standard analog TV to Digital TV and HDTV is going to be interesting. Interesting like the old Chinese curse, "May you lead an interesting life."

A Half Open Marriage or the Cuckolded Husband - part 5 1/2

I was seduced. Well maybe not.

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia.

Seduction is the process of deliberately enticing another person into an act. The word can have a negative connotation, either seriously or mildly (and also used jokingly), and may refer to an act that the other may later regret and/or would normally not want to do

Seduction most commonly refers to the use of sexual desire in order to persuade someone to change their behavior to meet the desires of the seducer.

It is usually implied that the seducer is acting out of a motive other than love for the seducee, and that the object of the seduction would not ordinarily have engaged in such behavior.

There are many strategies that can be used for seduction, depending on sex, personality and circumstances. Many social behavior theorists classify seduction as a specialized form of persuasion. Seduction can also be viewed as a form of power that relies on psychological mastery rather than the use of coercive power, money, or intellectual appeals.

So was I seduced? Maybe, maybe not. Can the willing be seduced? You decide.

Was I deliberately enticed into having a sexual relationship? yes.

Was sexual desire used to persuade me to change my behavior to meet the desires of the other? Yes.

Was G acting our of a motive other than love for me? Yes.

Would I have had sex with G before she asked. Yes, I would have the Friday night before if she had said yes when she got into her car.

Did I have any idea that my agreeing to have an affair with G was going to make major changes to my life. No.

Did G have an idea of how having an affair would change my life? Probably.

If I could go back, knowing what I know now, would I do it again? Yes.

Because of G? No. But because of a women I met a few years later, D. Read about her here. D may have been the love of my life. What I did to her I would change if I could. ::tears::

To be continued.

A Half Open Marriage or the Cuckolded Husband - part 5

I was seduced, I think.

One Friday I was at a bar with some of the Friday night crowd. I was setting at a table of some women at the invite of "G." I was acquainted with G and her friends. They worked together progressing (moving) parts and sub-assemblies from one part of the plant to another. I would see them from time to time in the hallways. Sometimes a few of the "Progress Girls" would join my technicians and me in the break-room. For the last several Fridays I had danced with most of them. So it was not that much of a deal to be invited to sit with them that Friday night. As the evening progress I found myself dancing and talking mostly with G. Near closing time G ask me to walk her to her car. I was felling real good because of the beer and dancing. When we got to her car we kissed. As she got behind the steering wheel of her car I asked, in a teasing way, if she would like me to go home with her. Now I did not expect for her to say yes, but she did look thoughtful before saying no. We both left going our separate ways. I had a great time that evening and one of the songs that I really liked dancing to was "Proud Mary" by Creedence Clearwater Revival. To this day when I hear this song I think about this night.

It wasn't too surprising for a Progress Girl to come into our area to see if we happened to have some needed parts in our stock that we could release to manufacturing. We always made them sweet talk us into letting them have the parts. G came into my office and sat down and started talking to me. She told me what a good time she had last Friday night. She stood up and closed the door to my office and said she had a question for me. "OK ask" I said. Then she dropped the bomb shell. She asked "Do you want to have an affair with me?" I was stunned. Before I could say anything, she got up opened the door and said "Think about it and give me you answer at break." And she was gone.

I was worthless at work. All I could think about was the question. After thinking about it awhile the decision was easy. The first wife (fw) was having sex with at least two guys, so why couldn't I have an affair with G? At break I said yes and my life changed.

A easy decision, a large change.

I had no idea of the things to come.

To be continued.

RSS

I've been using Mozilla Firefox as my Internet browser. Why? Several reasons chief among them are:

1) Built in pop-up blocker. Seems to work better and not get in the way like IE with a third party blocker.

2) Ability to increase text size. Some fonts, font sizes, and color schemes are hard for this old man to read. I especially have trouble with red background.

3) Built in RSS reader. I have setup many of my favorite blogs on RSS feed. In Firefox this is a tool bar and a list of blogs that I have setup. As I move my mouse pointer over the blog name a list of the last five or more postings are displayed. That away I can quickly move through the blogs looking for new postings. The only catch is that I need to remember the last posting title. Not too bad for the 35 or so blogs I am currently watching and reading. Oh, its easy to set up for the RSS feed. While viewing the blog, click on the RSS feed symbol in the lower right corner and save to the bookmark toolbar folder. A few blogs do not offer RSS feed. For these I must revert back to using the regular bookmarks to read them.

The one enchantment I would like would be some way to know if I had read that posting without remembering the posting title. Like a color change for the text.

How many of you are using a RSS reader to keep up with your favorite reads and how many Blogs do you check for new posting each day?

Wednesday Morning Adventures

This morning at 5:30 am I awoke to the alarm, struggled out of bed, did my morning stuff, put a handful of tools in my car and drove off. I was going across town to help a friend to reinstall the light fixtures on the front of their house. He had taken a job in Baghdad as he was painting his house and ran out of time to reinstall the lights before he went to Texas for a week of training and then the long flight to Baghdad. He is working and living in the green zone so he is mostly out of the line of fire.

The drive should have only taken 20 to 30 minutes but took 45 due to two of the eight river bridges being closed for repairs. Why so early? Two reasons. One, its cooler in the morning, its going to be in the mid 90s today. And two, I wanted to get ahead of the go-to-work traffic. I arrived around 7:15. I had three lights to put up, one by the front door and two on either side of the double garage door. I quickly had the light by the front door up and working. She and I could not find the brass nuts that hold the lights to the wall by the garage, so its off to Home Depot for some hardware. Then back to the house and I installed the garage lights. Easy to do if you have a cue. Put the house numbers up below the front door light and I was done. Left there about 9:20. When I got home I laid down and slept till noon.

It may not be much of an adventure, it felt good to do something for a friend.

A Half Open Marriage or the Cuckolded Husband - part 4

So life was interesting. I was having a lot of sex with the first wife (fw) and she was having even more sex: with me, the store guy (sg) and maybe others. I was staying late drinking and dancing with the Friday night crowd near where I worked across town. It was almost wonderful. I still wanted to have sex with other women.

One evening while fw and I were having sex, she started telling me about this married guy (mg) she met. She told me that she and mg had gone for a walk in a local park and had sucked him off. This is the first I knew about him. I asked her if she thought mg's wife (mgw) would be interested swapping. Fw said that mg thought mgw would, but we would need to take it slow. We set up a movie date with them. After the movie, they came over to have drinks with us. After a few drinks fw and mg were playing kissie face and roaming hands. I was kissing mgw was starting to touch her up. Fw and mg got up and went off into the other room. I had my hands under mgw's bra and I was thinking "this is going well." But when I started unfastening her pants she jumped up ran into the other room and yelled to her husband to pull up his pants as they were leaving. Again I ended up with nothing, but fw added another man to her stable.

I guess that I was going to have to learn to meet and seduce other women. Instead I was seduced.

It seemed at this point in my life women were in control of my relationships. I was just along for the ride.

To be continued.

Monday Morning Murmurs

I went to Panera Bread to have a bagel and coffee for breakfast. Its a good thing that the Monday paper is thin as I was having trouble concentrating on what I was reading. Why? One reason was the comment left by Odd Wife :-) and the other was thinking back about how I met "G." I am working offline writing about my first wife and will post the next instalment in a day or two.

Sunday a week ago I started having pains in my thigh muscles when I moved. No pain when I sat still, only when I used the muscles. No idea what was causing the pain as I could not think of anything I was doing different. I got to thinking about the meds I was using and thought about the Crestor. I had been on Crestor at 5mg a day for almost six months and one of the known side effects was muscle pain. I decided to stop the Crestor and see if the pain went away. Its been about a week without taking Crestor and the pain has almost gone away. Next I will go back on Crestor and see if the pain comes back.

Well its off to Home Depot to buy some bell wire for a project I'm working on.

Ta tah for now.